You smug-​​faced crowds with kin­dling eye,
Who cheer when soldier lads march by
Sneak home and pray you’ll never know
The hell where youth and laughter go.

This excerpt from a World War I poem by Siegfried Sassoon might well serve as an epi­graph for Ellen Feldman’s World War II novel, Next to Love. Feldman describes what happens to three young couples with inter­twined lives—the three wives have been fast friends since kindergarten—when war inter­rupts their promises and dreams. The reader first meets them right after the Pearl Harbor attack. War is breaking out and deci­sions must be made. Should the men vol­unteer to fight? Should they marry imme­di­ately nor not? Should they have children now or later? And what should the women do while the men are overseas? The novel follows the course of the war until some—not all—of the men return home. Then Next to Love traces how the war con­tinues to impact the three fam­ilies’ post-​​war lives for another gen­er­ation. Parents, children, brothers and sisters, new loves, old traumas, further com­pli­ca­tions, “the hell where youth and laughter go.”

Despite the under­lying and insistent message that war—and its repercussions—is hell, Next to Love actually is not a downer to read. Rather, it is a mature and clear-​​eyed look at how real men and women cope with unspeakable horrors, not only on the bat­tle­front but on the home front as well. The stories of Millie and Grace and Babe might apply equally to Vietnam vet­erans and their fam­ilies and to all those affected by the last two decades of Middle Eastern con­flict. In this respect, Next to Love is an important book, espe­cially to those of us who have escaped the urgencies war can impose on fam­ilies for gen­er­a­tions. We need to know what those fam­ilies may be suf­fering and how, for decades, they are coping. We need to feel, at least vic­ar­i­ously, the emo­tional trauma they are confronting.

Despite growing up together, the three women are quite dif­ferent in back­grounds and in tem­perament. The same is true of the men in their lives. Millie marries Pete, a happy-​​go-​​lucky guy who always lands on his feet, and she is equally resilient. Together, they look toward the future and never look back. Grace marries Georgie, scion of banker-​​capitalist King Gooding and heir to all his father’s ambi­tions. King’s impact is an integral part of the aftermath of war. Babe marries Claude, an ordinary couple with middle-​​class hopes and fears. In par­ticular, sub­se­quent political events have an impact on these two. When “the hell where youth and laughter go” det­o­nates all their lives, everyone reacts quite dif­fer­ently, with quite dif­ferent results. But over and over again, the women never lose sight of each other and never stop sup­porting each other’s fam­ilies. Despite deaths and nervous break­downs and a host of other dire events, their friend­ships draw them into a future that ulti­mately will obscure the losses of youth and laughter, the hell­ishness of the past. Let me repeat, Next to Love is an important book for all of us to read and wonder about and ponder.         –A.R.

 

Buy Next to Love: A Novel locally or look online at Amazon​.com, Powell’s Books, or through an IndieBound book­store.

 

 

 

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